How To Spot Controlling Behaviors In Narcissistic People
Narcissists are individuals characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a deep need for admiration, and a lack of empathy toward others. They often exhibit grandiosity, arrogance, and entitlement, believing they are special and deserving of extraordinary treatment. Narcissists may exploit others for their gain and struggle with criticism or perceived threats to their self-esteem.
WHAT ARE CONTROLLING BEHAVIOURS?
Controlling behavior in psychology refers to actions taken by an individual to dominate or influence another person’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. This can manifest in various forms such as emotional manipulation, intimidation, excessive criticism, and isolation from friends and family.
The goal of controlling behavior is often to maintain power and control over another person, ensuring they act in ways that align with the controller's desires.
NARCISSITS AND THEIR DISPLAY OF CONTROL:
Identifying controlling behavior in narcissists involves recognizing patterns of behavior aimed at exerting power and dominance over others.
Here are key signs to watch for:
- Jealousy and Possessiveness: Narcissists may display intense jealousy or possessiveness, attempting to control who their partner interacts with or how they spend their time
- Unpredictable Reactions: They may react unpredictably to challenges to their control, alternating between charm and aggression to maintain dominance.
- Lack of Boundaries: Narcissists may disregard personal boundaries, invading privacy or insisting on knowing every detail of others' lives.
- Threats and Ultimatums: In extreme cases, they may use threats or ultimatums to coerce compliance, exploiting others' fears or vulnerabilities.
- Jealousy and Possessiveness: Narcissists may display intense jealousy or possessiveness, attempting to control who their partner interacts with or how they spend their time.
- Unpredictable Reactions: They may react unpredictably to challenges to their control, alternating between charm and aggression to maintain dominance.
- Lack of Boundaries: Narcissists may disregard personal boundaries, invading privacy or insisting on knowing every detail of others' lives.
- Threats and Ultimatums: In extreme cases, they may use threats or ultimatums to coerce compliance, exploiting others' fears or vulnerabilities.
A WORD FROM MENTAL NURTURING:
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), is a mental health condition that can significantly impact relationships, work, and overall functioning.
Controlling behavior in narcissists often stems from their need for admiration and dominance.
They manipulate and exploit others to maintain their self-image and sense of superiority. This behavior includes gaslighting, constant criticism, and isolation of their targets.
Recognizing these behaviours can help in identifying controlling tendencies in narcissists.
It's crucial to set and maintain firm boundaries, seek support from trusted individuals, and consider professional help if the relationship becomes emotionally or physically abusive. Understanding these dynamics can empower individuals to protect their well-being and make informed relationship decisions.
RESOURCES:
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Written By:
Rumsha Abdul Aziz, MS Psychology
On July 25, 2024
